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Thursday, September 28, 2017

NFL and the Anthem

I'm sure many of you have been flooded with images of NFL players kneeling during the national anthem as their protest. You would have to live under a rock not to be subjected to the media's overwhelming obsession with it. Both liberal and conservative views. I've read many articles, watched videos, TV, and heard discussions on the radio as well. Yes, I'm about to the point of being tired of it as well.

A few things I would like to share about my feelings, some may agree, some won't, and I'm okay with that. Just realize these are my feelings on what I have been exposed to and how I have lived.

Some people see me as being privileged, as in "white" privilege, without me knowing. (I am made up of many ethnicities, predominantly lighter skinned – Britain, Ireland, Scotland, and Native American) My thoughts take me back to my childhood. I was born in Houston, in a predominantly "white" community. By the time I was in 4th grade, I had two "black" teachers and share classes with one "black" student. Did I even recognize the effect of race at that moment? I don't recall any if I did. Affluent or not, no matter the color of skin, we were all classmates. The next year, I was moved north of Houston, to a smaller, country community with a much more diverse population. What some would describe as a culture shock. In 5th grade, I was now surrounded with approximately 66% "black" population, in turn, becoming the minority. At first, I didn't think anything of it... why should I? It was never an issue before. Why would it be now? I may have been uncomfortable... BEFORE I knew people. But that included everyone. I was the only one my age, who went to the church of Christ. And surrounded by a bunch of Baptists and Catholics with a few Lutherans sprinkled in... made me more on edge than any color of any skin. Diversity, however, was something I actually enjoyed throughout high school. I liked learning different values, traditions, etc. from my friends. One of my best friends was "black", my high school coach was "black", teammates were "black." OK. Was I okay with it? Yes. Those, along with others I had met, became my friends, and some still are.

I never thought of having an advantage over others because of skin color. Was I blessed with a father who worked at home, who could come to all of my games and cheer and be proud of me? Yes. Was I blessed with a mother who was able to stay home and raise her daughters, pay them attention, and attend many school events with them? Yes. Was I blessed because I wasn't without basic necessities? Absolutely. Was everyone raised that way? No. Did I agree with everyone? No. That's ridiculous. Was I quick to forgive? Not usually. And that's not a good thing. But growth comes with age. :) I never thought it was about privilege. I was taught it was about choices.

People make different choices depending on how they were loved, or how they weren't. 

Maybe that's why in my forties, I am more inclined to "love" on people every chance I get.

Confederacy is a bad word to many... but I don't feel that way. I was taught that many of my relatives fought for the Confederacy, not the Union. Although I didn't think the war entirely was necessary, and death could have been spared, I was glad to have family on the South side. Some may question why I was glad. Well, I don't think of "slaves" or "slavery" as being something that needs to be implemented into society. No one should play puppet master. All men (humans) should have a voice. If I was alive back then, I have no idea how I would have been affected. My great-grandparents had a maid (paid), who was "black." Her name was Alice. I loved Alice. I have great memories with her. She was more part of the family than the help. We were definitely not high-society, or affluent. Just a small, country home, with a tiny kitchen, with wood floors and a claw foot tub. Nothing fancy. But Alice felt like family. I couldn't imagine ever, EVER, treating anyone like a slave. I wasn't raised that way. Now, I do know that many people were taught to hate "black" people, look down on them and disrespect them, strictly based on their skin color. I never really understood this. I would contemplate on why people would act like that. All I could come up with is that they were uneducated on WHO they are... WHERE they came from... and didn't want their lives to "interfere" with their own lives. It would require sacrifice and acceptance. Still, and sadly, people today apparently feel the same way. :(

So, bounce to this day and age... NFL players who are kneeling as a protest. Personally, I applaud you for taking a stand for what you believe in, and making a statement. What I absolutely DISAGREE with is doing it DURING the National Anthem. A plea for unity to address the bigger problem of unequal treatment amongst the black community. What these mega-star athletes aren't getting is that they are not oppressed, therefore they aren't the best candidates to protest silently. They are role models and heroes for many children, and many adults, sadly, when many of them have committed crimes, have driven while drunk, have been convicted of beating their wives, some have even committed murder. Would you want this as a role model for your child? (JJ Watt, I can understand. Deshaun Watson, today, just became many peoples hero. There are plenty of pay-it-forward, humble, and thankful NFL players. Too bad they are never talked about as much, or make the news as much as the controversial). Why not use their position and "power" to make a difference? Instead of fuel fire that seems to keep burning?

Colin Kapernick knelt last year to silently protest stating, "I am not going to stand up to show pride in a flag for a country that oppresses black people and people of color... To me, this is bigger than football and it would be selfish on my part to look the other way..."

Fast forward a year... what has that accomplished? Has he reached out and made progress in the community? Volunteered to ride with some police officers? Enlisted in the Armed Forces? What has he done besides influence others to kneel? During the anthem? Think about it. Think about all displays of silent protesting. I would mention what other nationalities can protest, and what they could say. It would hit a nerve with some of you. Some would be passive.

What happened to the cohesiveness, color-blindness, agape love for thy neighbor... ?? We, here in the Houston area, just went through one of the worst, if not, worst water dumping hurricanes and flooding. People were literally risking their lives saving each other... because it was overwhelming to the local first responders. People from all over the US were helping here. Literally.

I am all about standing up for what you believe, but if you are just drawing attention to yourself instead of turning it into action (such as meeting with legislature, state senators, community outreach, etc.), it becomes more about you than what you are protesting. YOU are in the news instead of your cause. Seeing as a large percent of America, loves America, the men and women who have fought and still fight for America, crossing both party lines... maybe by choosing to do this during the anthem while you were working wasn't the smartest choice. For anyone who has served, had family who has served and sacrificed their lives, for our freedom, thank you. But for any of them who watches this, they don't see the reason you are protesting... they see blatant disrespect for the flag of our country. If you hate America that much, you don't have to stay. Go try living in a truly oppressed country, such as Syria, or Somalia, even Iran. It's awful. Be thankful that you live in the USA. You live in a country that pays more to professional athletes than it does their military. (which is a different blog, entirely.) Look at the entire picture. See every detail. Don't be blind to what you do not wish to see.

Although every American has the right to protest peacefully, not every American has to agree with how or why they are doing it, and in turn can choose their own way to protest... It's America. Respect cultivates respect. Treat others as you would have them treat you. Love your neighbor as yourself. And have no expectation except in Christ Jesus. For He is the ONLY one who can deliver you.

Be the change you wish to see in the world. Lead by example. Make that difference, even if just to ONE human. Pay it forward. Bring God into your life. Let His light shine through you. Pray.

The LORD performs righteous deeds and judgments for all who are oppressed.
Psalm 103:6

Thursday, September 14, 2017

little drops of light everywhere


You never really know the impact of someone on your life, until they are no longer here. 

I learned earlier today that Sean Adams, a college friend and fellow athlete, passed away of an unexpected heart attack this morning. Besides being in utter shock, as everyone else was... my eyes filled with tears. 

From college, over 25 years ago, my thoughts:


Sean was an athlete. 
Football and track at ACU. A long, lanky athlete. Nappy. (lovingly referred to by many of us.) And that smile... It would reach across campus. There is a common core link amongst athletes in addition to just a college buddy, or someone in class... At least it was to many of us at Abilene Christian University. We shared a common love for one another, as we represented our school, went through hardships, and faced our fears on and off the court, field, or track.

Sean was crazy. 
The good kind of crazy. The crazy that made you smile and gut laugh to the point of crying... Everyone loved him. He had this mysterious light that seemed to attract all. His profession after college proved to be very fitting. Whether is was sharing his stories, offering advice, or making you think about things you really wouldn't think about unless you were prompted, he was just a good guy.

Sean was a professional. 
Always had respect. Might not have liked all the outcomes, but never did I see him act disrespectful. He always knew what direction he was headed, and he didn't let anything get in the way. Very positive and realistic, he was a man who had loads of ambition and an undeniable passion for what he believed.

And then today happened. Gone too soon. A wife lost the love of her life. Children lost their dad. Many lost a great friend and confidant. Others lost the reassuring voice they had come to love over the airwaves. A church lost one of their own. And many people whose lives were touched by Sean, no matter the duration or location, be it in person or on-air, will be better for knowing him. 

Very sobering. 

Tell those that you love that you love them!

In college, I didn't really think of someone being a Godly influence on my life. I just knew who had the light, and who let theirs shine a little more. That's who Sean was, and ultimately lived his life leaving little drops of light everywhere he went.

I'll leave you with Sean's thought for the day from 8/28/17 that stayed with me:

"Help who, where and whenever you can.
Humanity relies on those who can. Let that be you."

Sunday, September 18, 2016

When in this life...

When in this life, do we have time for anything? 

It seems to all melt together in a  tight ball of "hurry up and do this" or "if we don't go now, we'll miss something." Let me tell you something, a word to the wise... live in the present. When you have a conversation with someone, especially someone you love, try to refrain from saying things like "I don't have time" or " I am too busy." Even if you don't have the time, never state that. What you convey to the person you are talking to, is that you CHOOSE not to MAKE time for them, to listen, to visit, to care. Life is busy. I get it. But get your priorities straight. If you say you are going to do something, then hold to your word, and DO IT! Otherwise, again, don't say you'll do it. The people that are here today may not be here tomorrow, and that goes for you as well. Forgive. Move past the hurt. Wrap yourself in the love that surrounds you.

When in this life, can we go back in time? 

We can't. We can relive memories, at times, recollect things that have happened, good and bad, but we can't go back and change anything. Why waste time thinking of what should have or could have been done differently. We are a cumulation of our choices. The quicker we realize this, the better off we will be.

When in this life has accumulating possessions become more important than cultivating relationships? 

If we put time investing in the people that surround us, really listening to them, learning their story, catching a small glimpse into what makes THEM happy, as opposed to making ourselves happy... think of how much better this life would be.

When in this life... NOW.



  • Wake up.
  • Pray relentlessly.
  • Be the bigger person.
  • Make that phone call.
  • Listen to others.
  • Say hello.
  • Give hugs.
  • Offer a shoulder.
  • Throw a smile out there.
  • Forgive now.
  • Life is short.
  • Touch a life.
  • Save a life.
  • Love with abandon.


You never know who God puts in your path. Sometimes you don't know why they are there, sometimes you think you do. And sometimes, all reality can surprise you in a way that you never would have dreamed. Take notice of who surrounds you. Your family, your friends, people at church, or even a stranger you meet at a game. Just think about it.

And talking friends... Be a good friend... the best friend... the friend that makes others feel as though NO ONE is as important as they are... because at that moment... NO ONE is.

A display of priorities in a single moment can last a lifetime, and can reveal Christ to someone who may need Him.

❤️

Friday, August 26, 2016

Beautiful Gift

I was cleaning my office the other day, and came across some older cards that I had received from a sweet friend in 2007... and today, I read online, that this same person who has always been sweet, kind and loving, even came to my induction into the ACU Sports Hall of Fame, is in need of prayers.

Ms. Addie (84), which most of you who went to ACU knew of, if not, just plain loved her. Her daughter, Sharon, has shared that she is having some memory issues. Don't know the prognosis, but they are running tests. Pray for her family as they put it in the hands of God to take care of decisively one of His favorites...(and mine, too!)  And besides my mom, I have NEVER known anyone who loved to fish like her.

A heart of gold she has, put there purposefully, by God, to love all, even the unlovable, pray fervently for many people, lift up those who need encouragement, and to laugh and share the joy she possesses... She always comes back to the Book, the One. Good choice.

God in Heaven,  

I know you can hear me. Please be with Ms. Addie, and keep her safe in your hands while the doctors determine what's going on. Also, guide the doctors in the best possible direction from here. Be with her family and keep them close. I pray that Your will be done in all aspects. Thank You for a beautiful gift, for letting me know such a wonderful person, who has weaved kindness and compassion into the tapestry of my life. Let her feel loved as much as she has loved. And most of all, let her know You are there. In Jesus' name, Amen.

I just love her.

- Linda

UPDATE: from Sharon's post: "A Paul Harvey version of what apparently happened to our mom is that she had a stroke. It affected the part of her brain that controls hunger, vision, & speech. That explains the jumbled speech & confusion. She didn't "feel" hungry for 2 & 1/2 days. She was extremely dehydrated as well. She's been admitted to the hospital for a couple of days to rehydrate & then will be moved to a rehab facility. We'll update w/details as we get them. Thank you so much for your outpouring of love for her & all of us! We appreciate you so much!"



Tuesday, July 12, 2016

Love Like Jesus

Strange enough to imagine,
A life that's simple and plain.
Where people greeted each other
And knew everybody's name.

Our land is so divided
So broken at the heart
Those who used to call it home
No longer want to be a part.

Racism is running rampant,
Degradation is on the rise.
Crime is the new normal,
And there is haunting in our eyes.

If we could love like Jesus,
Anyone, anywhere,
This nation would come together
And all would learn to care

With the compassion in our hearts,
And with love in our souls.
Let us, with God, take this nation
Where it needs to go.

Tuesday, June 28, 2016

The Challenge.

You deserve more than you give yourself credit for. Embrace your life – your family, your friends, all of your blessings – all are from God, even if it may appear otherwise at times. We are all made with the same ability to feel, to love, to give, to appreciate, etc., – how we are taught to channel each of these is the challenge.

Wednesday, May 11, 2016

A Familiar Sense of Calm

Last week was supposed to be a time of celebrating my birthday... not that I was looking forward to turning 45, but I was blessed to live another day. And at the same time I was celebrating with a few friends, little did I know that on the other side of town, a friend that is like a brother to me would lose his second son in a motorcycle accident. I was informed Wednesday morning.

This incident almost mirrored a similar incident almost five years ago, to the same family, where their youngest 21-yr-old son was involved in a fatal motorcycle accident.

I was in shock. Still am a little bit. But it sparked my thoughts, and I thought I would share with you what Willis, the Mora family, and the testament to friendship really means.

Willis Allen, a special person... precious dimples, captivating eyes, and overall a great guy... a wonderful cook (he was the executive chef at Sambuca downtown and on the cook team for Dusty Bones Cook Team)... loved his family, his friends, his great dane and his life. He was always full of life, smiling, enjoying himself. The last memory I have of him was when at the 2016 World Championship Barbecue Cookoff, he was a finalist for his chicken. :) This was definitely a big deal. He was happy. His dad was happy. His cook team was happy. It was a good day, even though he didn't win, he placed something like 18th out of over 400 cook teams. So my last memory of him, he was happy, being celebrated, as he well deserved.

The Mora's... James and Barbara. I grew to be closer to them early in 2015, though I already counted them as friends... but there is something about spending time with people that just draws you closer. I am so thankful for that. They are just good people. :) Five years ago, when their youngest son, Rich, was taken too soon, I tried to think of anything I could do to help them. It's one of those things, you're not sure what to do, what to ask, what to say, what to give, what to bring, talk or stay silent... So I did what I do, and prayed that whatever I did was accepted. And it was.

This time was different. I spent more time around Willis than I did Rich. Our paths crossed on more than on occasion. I felt more sadness because I knew him better... yet, I still had that familiar sense of calm... because of my faith. Willis is now with his little brother, Rich, who he loved dearly, and missed every day.

Times like this show the true value of friendship. Love your neighbor as yourself could not be more evident as it has been this past week. Many people who came to the service for our hometown chef, were friends of his, loves, and acquaintances... but many more people who paid their respect, love who raised him.